Dealing with work and personal finances For informants that actually were employed, the text revealed ongoing struggles with achieving a functional work-situation, combined with a fear of being excluded from workplace groups. Inability to control impulses seemed to be a factor that caused a lot of social problems, both at work and in personal relationships. Failing to pay bills and their household expenses was especially difficult to handle because it had serious financial consequences. When deciding between insurance, phone carriers, and other service providers, informants found it difficult to understand terms, conditions, and prices. This often led to less favorable deals and agreements which in turn led to even worse financial outcomes including higher costs for subscriptions and fees.”
This is one of my favorite illustrations of how important it is to match your solution to 1) your actual problem, and 2) your ecosystem. Is their problem that their ecosystem has variable rainfall and the river thus floods at times? No. Their problem is that there’s a landfill upriver that spreads trash downriver when it floods. They can’t change the rain, nor do they need to build the Hoover dam. They had to get creative — and they did.
I also love the excitement in these engineers’ faces as they watch their first attempt to solve the problem of the trash floating down the river when it floods. They deserve to celebrate after such a massive attempt to address this issue!
They are noticing the areas where trash gets through so that they can address those areas before the next flood season. Their next effort will capitalize on existing strengths and troubleshoot the weak spots. That’s the kind of approach that gets things done.
If you are finding that the “typical” or “ideal” solutions aren’t working for you — such as a detailed budget spreadsheet or a calendar booked out to the last 5-minute slot — maybe you should re-evaluate whether that solution matches your ecosystem and your problems. Do you have variable periods of inattention and hyperfocus? Do you find that at some times, such as when you’re stressed, you make impulsive decisions that wreck your best-laid plans? If you find yourself building picture-perfect plans again and again that never actually work in your real life (for more than two weeks), maybe you’re trying to build the Hoover dam when you should have built a flexible fence.
If this is you, what can you do? You can shift your focus from building an “ideal” plan to building a “harm-reduction” plan. Think about what the “trash” is that’s created during those times of flood. Is your “downriver trash” forgetting to pay bills or call friends back? Set up autopay or send a text explanation. You can even set texts to auto-send. Is your “downriver trash” that you begin to be late to work more often than not? Figure out what you can cut out of your morning routine. Just focus on what the most pressing and predictable trash-downriver issues are and try to reduce how much damage they do to your life.
Join us for a presentation that will provide a basic understanding of Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (prevalence, etiology, common symptoms) as well as current and emerging research regarding ADHD and financial well-being.
Hear how ADHD-associated impairments in executive functioning affect financial behavior, financial decision-making, and overall financial well-being, as well as how financial professionals can improve their effectiveness in working with clients with ADHD.
You will come away from this session with a clear framework for identifying and addressing unseen barriers to financial success experienced by clients with ADHD, research- and empirically-supported resources, and key tips for best practices for working with this population.
I gave a presentation called “Elevating the Relationships of Couples with ADHD” at the National Alliance for Relationship and Marriage Education in July of 2023. I presented an overview of ADHD, a summary of existing research, preliminary findings of my research from the CARE Lab at UGA (with co-presenters Dr. Ted Futris and Dr. Evin Richardson), and recommendations for providing relationship and marriage education to participants with ADHD.
“Adult Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) affects an estimated 4.4 – 5% of the U.S. population. This common disorder can affect many areas of life: work, finances, health, parenting, and family life, including couple relationships. Millions of couples grapple with the daily challenges conferred on their relationship and lives together by one or both partner’s ADHD. Researchers and practitioners who work in couple relationship education (CRE) are keen to tailor our efforts to make our programs more ADHD-friendly, but may not know where to start. In this presentation, we will establish a baseline understanding of the symptoms, prevalence, and associated risks of adult ADHD, as well as current research regarding how ADHD effects couple functioning and stability. We will then share preliminary findings from an evaluation study examining the experiences of couples with ADHD who participated in the CRE program, ELEVATE: Taking your Relationship to the Next Level. Recommendations will be shared for educational programs working with couples with ADHD.”
I gave a presentation on ADHD and money for “Focused,” an online members-only group on IHaveADHD.com in spring 2023. I’ll be a podcast guest on their show mid-August as well — I believe that one will be publicly available.